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The REAL Reasons we get DISTRACTED & the Proven Ways to GET FOCUSED! by Shelley Mitchell

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The REAL Reasons we get DISTRACTED & the Proven Ways to GET FOCUSED! by Shelley Mitchell

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WHAT keeps stopping you, slowing you down on getting in your way of HAVING what you really want?

(ADHD or not… the answer is usually the same)
I ask this question of my potential clients who come to me because they are ready to move to the next level in their business.
It’s also the same questions I ask my current clients who gets stuck.
We ALL Get STUCK from time to time but do want to know what the #1 answer is I hear from 99% of folks?
“I can’t stay FOCUSED” – OR – “I keep getting DISTRACTED”…
 
DISTRACTIONS or “not being able to FOCUS” is the number #1 KILLER of our success!  (in our business, our lives, our health, our relationships, our careers and the list goes on!)
So my blog this week is about…

The REAL Reasons we get DISTRACTED & the Proven Ways to GET FOCUSED!


First of all, we may not realize this but FOCUS is a limited resource.

YUP!  We keep trying to find “more” FOCUS when we have used it all up on something else.

Knowing that it’s limited, you have to CHOOSE what you want to use it for.

Here are some causes of “DISTRACTIONS” which cause us to use up our FOCUS resource and have nothing left for what we thought we wanted it for.

1.  You are using up your FOCUS on the wrong things – 

According to Psychology Today, “Every time you focus your attention you use a measurable amount of glucose and other metabolic resources. Studies show that each task you do tends to make you less effective at the next task, and this is especially true for high-energy tasks like self control or decision making so distractions really take their toll.”

FIX – “Know” that your FOCUS is limited and actually make conscious choices to how you want to use it. A daily plan could act like a checkbook register for how you want to spend your FOCUS.

2.  It might not be IN YOU to actually get it done – 

Another conversation I have a lot, including when I’m talking to my son which he working 6 days a week at his intensive summer sales job is about trying to force yourself to do something that really isn’t IN YOU to do…

 If something is not in line with your internal values (and you may not even know what those are) then no matter how hard you try to do something,

SOMETHING ELSE will always seem to get in the way.

So while you are beating yourself up over and over again for “not getting something done”, the truth is… that your values are talking to your brain and preventing you from doing it.

And now you are exhausted and feel worthless and wonder “why can’t I just get that done?”.

FIX – I suggest you get in tune with what those values are and create your to-do list from things that will SUPPORT what you truly want to accomplish and not what you THINK you SHOULD BE doing. A “Values” test through a coach or the “The Passion Test” which we do for our Get Your IPA On clients is a great resource.

3.  “Winging It” is NOT a Plan – 

We get up, have an idea of what needs to happen, make the coffee, start getting ready for the day and you head to the office (in home or out) and 3 hours surprisingly pass and you have NO IDEA what happened. You were working, you were busy and you knew there was something you NEEDED to do because you couldn’t sleep the night before thinking about it. But something else happened, something went wrong, someone had a problem for you to solve, the traffic was bad or the dog got sick, who knows….

If you aren’t planning out your day, IN WRITING, and the things you are planning are not in line with your biggest priorities and your values, it really isn’t going to get done unless you just happen to get lucky.

FIX – Have a DAILY plan, a weekly plan and an overall VISION/MISSION for your life and business at a minimum. We focus on 30 days and 90 days at a time with our clients at My Personal Business Coach because we are working on adding an extra 6 figures to our business each year.

Your Daily Plan should have specific STEPS that are moving your vision/mission and GOALS forward and they should be quantifiable. (you should be able to “measure” them.)

4.  It’s Not In the Calendar – 

I created the Daily Success Planner after having thousands of people love the Weekly Success Planner. I’m a master at getting things done… but only when it’s IN MY PLANNER.

When I started working with my Health Coach, I agreed to drink a greenie each day. But each time I met with her, I had accomplished a LOT each week but that was the one thing that never happened. SOMETHING always got in the way. We were both stumped!

She called me one day and very loudly said “I figured it out!”. You are NOT drinking your greenies because there’s no place in your new Daily Success Planner for this. She said she “knew that I didn’t do anything unless it was in my planner”…  We discovered that I had incorporated the self-care piece in my Weekly Success Planner but didn’t carry it over to the Daily Planner.

SO, as you will see, PRIORITY #2 is now “ZEN” which is the place I put that one simple thing I can do for myself each day.

FIX – If it’s not worth tracking, it’s not worth doing. SCHEDULE what is important to you and hold that appointment with yourself. Give it the importance it deserves.

5.  The Oreo’s Have Voices! – 

One of my philosophies on how help our clients is to use the “OREOS IN THE PANTRY” method. That’s how I explain to my clients about what I do to help them. ELIMINATING the distractions are important. No one has the perfect willpower, 100% of the time.

If I was a health coach and we were cutting out sugar, we would throw the oreos OUT because we all know that they start calling our name from the pantry in the middle of the night.

I help my clients determine what the “oreos” are in their business and their life that are preventing them from accomplishing things that move their business forward.

FIX – You have to ask yourself the question “what got in my way this time?” and really think about it. Figure out what your “oreos” are and then throw them out, or give them away to someone really skinny 🙂

Ready to GET FOCUSED?

Get Your Weekly Success Planner and the DAILY Success Planner HERE – as my gift to you.  DOWNLOAD PLANNERS NOW


In order to know and FOCUS on what’s really important, I want to share this with you.

Here are 3 +++ AMAZING RESOURCES to FIND YOUR FOCUS!

Succeed with ADHD Telesummit! (starts on 7/13)

Like Willy Wonka and his chocolate bar, your Golden Ticket is to the Succeed with ADHD Telesummit where you can learn all the secrets from ADHD experts on how to succeed with ADHD!

All you have to do is reserve your seat by clicking here:

Starting TOMORROW July 13, you can listen in to this 5th annual Succeed with ADHD Telesummit and hear from more than 20 of the world’s leading ADHD experts (including me) as we share our most up-to-date information, tips, strategies and techniques for succeeding with ADHD.

In fact, I will be there talking about…….ADHD is a gift!  10 Keys to leverage this gift to succeed in business and career (and yes, make more money!)
It costs you nothing to listen to all the speakers and you will have access to the best resources in the country regrading ADHD, Autism, your kids/teens, and MUCH MORE.  Click here for a taste of what you will learn…

Want to know the secrets to succeeding with ADHD?

Things that will help you…

  • Create a more satisfying sexual relationship with your partner
  • Get unstuck and into action
  • Eliminate homework battles and enjoy your children
  • Tame that mess, to do list, boredom and procrastination
  • Leverage your creativity into productivity in life and business
  • Advocate for your adopted ADHD child or at risk teen

– See more at: http://succeedwithadhdtelesummit.com/#sthash.qwZXHocB.dpuf

Once again, this one-of-a-kind Succeed with ADHD Telesummit starts Monday, July 13 and lasts one week, and I want to invite you to attend as my guest, completely f.ree of charge.

That’s right – there is no charge to listen in to these experts share their experience and behind the scenes answer for succeeding with ADHD!

?Don’t worry, if you can’t attend a call live, you will have access to the replays for 24 hours! Laurie is making this so easy…right?!

So, to grab your spot and listen in to all this great information, you simply need CLICK HERE to grab your spot!


3 Easy Ways To Build Your List in less than 2 weeks! 

(Sunday, 7pm, 7/12) click here to register!

 

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SUNDAY NIGHT! – Our weekly  CATAPULT Your Cash Flow! Expert Webinar Series- free training with Shelley Mitchell and special expert guests.

This week – Shelley and her LIST BUILDING SECRETS!!!
Build Your List – Build Your Business – Build Your Bank Account!

(Sunday, 7pm, 7/12) click here to register!


EMERGENT SOUL 2nd Annual Conference

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Emergent Soul is not just a conference. It is a community of like minded individuals who want to create and live their best life. Expand their happiness and love like they have never before. Our interactive workshops and engaging sessions will put you on the path to achieving your best life.
Click here to Register or get more information!

BEYOND CIRCUMSTANCE is coming to South Florida!

with Belanie Dishong (Aug. 18th and 19th)

Have you had a vision or desire to make something happen, and it is so clear that you KNOW it’s possible?

…only you come up against an obstacle?  Then suddenly, frustration and resignation set in.

There is a SOLUTION for what’s been
getting in your way!

In the Beyond Circumstances workshop, you discover exactly what limits your ability to produce different results.

In only two days:

       • Your life is transformed.

       • You break through what keeps you stuck.

       • Your patterns STOP!

The Beyond Circumstances™ workshop is the flagship Live At Choice™ program.  In just two days, it produces change that leads to:

       • Peace, clarity and freedom

       • More effective living

       • Happier and healthier families

       • Powerful, loving relationships

       • Financial and career transformation

Life becomes free of old ways of thinking and new choices become clear.  This workshop breathes life into forgotten dreams.  CLICK HERE TO REGISTER (my C-Suite Private Clients get TICKETS from me as a gift)


Speaking Empire

Speaking & Marketing Academy

Empowering Leaders To Empower The World


Tampa, FL  July 24th – 26th, 2015

For this, you have to REQUEST an invitation to even attend but please let them know that I referred you and that will help you be able to get in. CLICK HERE TO REQUEST AN INVITATION or Find Out More…

 

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10 Signs You Are A PROCRASTINATOR & the #1 thing I do PERSONALLY to get $hit DONE!

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10 Signs You Are A PROCRASTINATOR & the #1 thing I do PERSONALLY to get $hit DONE!
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Are you a PROCRASTINATOR?  I used to be a TOTAL PROCRASTINATOR and then I changed this one thing…
In my new blog just out today, (SEE BELOW) you will discover

“The 10 Signs You Are A PROCRASTINATOR and

the #1 thing I do PERSONALLY to get $hit DONE! 

– including going from totally ADHD and DISTRACTED to 2 published books & a multiple 6-figure business!

but first, YOU MUST JOIN ME

*******TONIGHT******* Dr. Yvonne Oswald LIVE!

 

It was not that long ago that I dialed in to a free call and heard this lady talk about this weird stuff called NLP and Hypnosis..

“Hmmm, interesting but that’s just a little woo-woo and would NEVER work for me” I said to myself but then…

I was chosen to be the “volunteer” for a TWO-MINUTE Exercise in front of hundreds of other people and I learned SOMETHING about myself that CHANGED THE COURSE of my life FOREVER!

 

Now TONIGHT, I have the PRIVILEGE and HONOR of interviewing that same woman and I get to SHARE IT WITH YOU!

Please join me as I interview Dr. Yvonne Oswald, Award Winning, Best Selling Author and she teaches us

How to Write Your Brilliantly Successful How-To Book!  (in two weeks or less)!

(and I might fill you in on that 1 thing I learned on that fateful night..  YOU could be next!)

 

CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR SPOT (& share with others)

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Dr. Yvonne Oswald is my featured GUEST EXPERT tonight as part of my

CATAPULT Your Cash Flow! 

ongoing EXPERT Webinar Series FOCUSED

on your 6-figure & beyond success!

 

 

CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR SPOT! (complimentary)

One registration to the free spot gets you -ALL ACCESS- to ALL of our LIVE Expert Webinars and top Industry Leaders, Inspiration and Motivation we bring to you  on a weekly and/or bi-weekly basis with amazing speakers such as…

 

  • Dave Van Hoose with the 7-figure Speaking Empire, 2 Men & A Secret “SPEAKING BLUEPRINT” that added over $212,000.00 to my business in less than 12 months!
  • Karen Alleyne-Means, Simple & Sexy SELLING Secrets!
  • Jim Hohl and Lucas Garvin with Visify, Automate Your Marketing and Stop Working Weekends
  • Caleb Sessions, Teen Entrepreneur/Author/Speaker, When All Else Fails… Make Friends With The Cops!
  • Jena Rodriguez,  Brand with Jena & The BRAVE Entrepreneur
  • Belanie Dishong, Create Your Results, Affirmations Don’t Work!
  • Vicky Townsend, The PASSION Test!  Do what you love & never work a day in your life!
  • Dr. Yvonne Oswald, How to Write A Wildly Successful HOW-TO Book! (in 2 weeks or less)
  • and many many more…

During this Expert Webinar Series…

You will DISCOVER the real-world secrets of creating and growing a 6-Figure Business and Beyond!
What you FOCUS on Expands!
We FOCUS on CASH FLOW and your SUCCESS
(Keep an eye on your inbox for your log in/ call in information) – YOU ONLY HAVE TO REGISTER ONCE for the entire series…

See ya Soon!

Shelley and The MPBC Team!

Again, you only need to register ONCE and you will have an ALL ACCESS PASS to all LIVE Webinars in this series!

Brand New BLOG Just Released!
By  Shelley Mitchell

Being TOTALLY ADHD with a Capital H, I had a very roller coaster life and career of STARTING everything and finishing NOTHING…

Now, as an expert in helping entrepreneurs and business owners turn their Passion into successful, PROFITABLE businesses, I’m a certified Business Coach and ADHD Coach, and even built a 6 figure business in my first full year and multiple 6 figures businesses thereafter… oh, and published 2 books.

 

Guess what!? 

I’m still totally ADHD -and- even though I might seem a bit unorganized at times and ALL over the place, the TRUTH IS that I get MORE DONE in one day than most people do in a week!

 

Here’s are the 10 signs to see if you are a PROCRASTINATOR and the #1 thing I do personally to get so much done!

 

(straight from Procrastinators Anonymous)  Compulsive procrastinators may not have all the signs listed here, but if you identify with many of these characteristics, you are probably a compulsive procrastinator.

1.    We keep disappointing other people and ourselves by not keeping our promises.

2.    Difficulty getting started on new projects or transitioning from one project to another.

3.    Poor Sense of Time – USUALLY LATE – chronically underestimating or overestimating how long a task will take us to complete.

4.    Difficulty organizing projects by breaking them down into steps; we don’t know where to start, even when we’re willing to start.

5.    Surrounded by clutter and disorganization in our homes and work spaces.

6.    We are regularly late for appointments.

7.    We are acutely aware of what we should be doing, or think we should be doing, and oddly out of touch with what we actually want and need.

8.    Trouble saying “NO” to requests from others, and instead express our resentment through the passive resistance of procrastination.

9.    Demand Resistance, (do what?)  We do anything and everything except the one thing we most need to do.

10.    Short-term thinkers, focusing on short-term pleasure while ignoring long-term well-being.  (if you don’t have a written daily plan or even a business/marketing strategy, you might be a PROCRASTINATOR)

OMG, after reading this list, that was/is SOOOOO ME!

But I have figured out the SECRET to tricking myself every single day.

While there are a lot of things that go into having a successful business, IMPLEMENTATION is the one biggest one you need to have.

Without, VISION, IMPACT, Marketing Strategies & Tactics and Systems in place, it could get a little messy but if you don’t take ACTION on what you need to do, it will NEVER happen.

The IMPLEMENTATION piece is where most people fall short.

So what is my SECRET WEAPON?  Or the weapon against my procrastinating nature…?

The answer is:  TIME BLOCKING!

Yes, Time Blocking!  This is my very tight-leash I put on myself.  Even my man knows to put the time we want to spend time together INTO my calendar.

If it’s NOT in my calendar, then it doesn’t happen, period…. 

WHY?  Because I’m so tough on myself?  Absolutely Not…

If I don’t put it in my calendar, I will FORGET everything, maybe even my name so time blocking keeps me on track with everything including:

•    what I was doing,

•    what I need to do,

•    what’s next

•    where I need to be,

•    what time I need to leave,

•    who I need to call and even simply,

•    how to plan my life

TIME BLOCKING – simplified

Color Coding –

Some people may think putting EVERYTHING in your calendar can be visually overwhelming, so I make sure I COLOR CODE my activities.

Also, when cash flow seems to be “slow” or I something seems to be going the wrong direction, I can easily look at the overall picture and see “by the COLOR” where I was spending most of my time.

The answer to my problems usually shows itself very quickly in the colors.

Here are the colors I personally use but I suggest you use what makes sense to your brain-style and your life.

  • GREEN – a potential or current CLIENT or JV (anything that may contribute to being an income producing activity)
  • BLUE – IN PERSON… Since I do a lot of my work on the phone or online, I needed a way to differentiate an “IN PERSON” appointment.  This way, I know if SPANX or mascara is going to be required…ahead of time and I’m not rushing around trying to find the two
  • PURPLE – anything personal from a doctors appointment to attending a party to my DATE NIGHT (and yes, I block out date night)
  • AQUA BLUE – anything requiring me to travel away from home/office.  Typically AQUA BLUE references the beach or ocean or a VACATION but since I made sure that I work the majority of my trips around my business.  So, whether I’m going to Hawaii for 2 weeks for vacation (which I’m sure to book a speaking engagement or something business related when I go.) or I’m traveling to my mastermind in St. Pete or speaking in Texas, it’s ALL AQUA BLUE.  I love to travel, meet new people and see new things, so this category gets my favorite color.
  • CORAL – this is an appointment where I’m getting COACHED or TRAINED or am working on business operations.  Its my own business development or personal development.  My call with Dustin Matthews or Dave VanHoose (my business and speaking coaches) is CORAL and my PLANNING TIME allocated SOLELY for the development of my business is all CORAL.  For me to do my blog, I have to block out the time to work on it – OR – IT DOESN’T GET DONE…  As I’m writing this, I’m in a CORAL block…
  • RED! – this means DO NOT FORGET, DO NOT CHANGE, SOOOOO IMPORTANT….. whether it’s my one day event “Speak Sell Serve Live” which is blocked out of my calendar, my private masterminds I’m doing with my clients or personal commitment like the Training Committee with Junior League of Boca Raton, this is RED in my calendar, so I know that it’s NOT flexible, not negotiable and MUST ATTEND.
  • YELLOW – is tentative.  These are things that I would LIKE to do.  They show up as “open” and not marked as “busy” until I make it so.  I actually keep a separate calendar in Google with all of the ongoing networking events locally and in the towns we want to expand our presence, and when I see availability for me to attend, I BOOK IT.  My team knows that these are things we would “like to” do but if a client has an urgent need or we have a potential client to work with, they can OVERWRITE this area.  It’s all about PRIORITIZING.
  • GRAY – this is my gray area.  I block out my “get ready” time and my driving time to get to appointments so I don’t get caught the ADHD’ers most common trait of doing “just one last thing” and end up late again.

ALARMS/ REMINDERS!

I add pop-up reminders and alarms for important things, so I don’t lose track of time and for the most part.

Also, everything is usually blocked out in 1-hour increments.

LABELS!

I also add “labels” in my appointments like “SS” for Strategy Session or “CC” for Current Client so if I need to do a “SEARCH”, all of my history can be pulled up at a moments notice.

Having the information on your history, your future, and your productivity is HUGE and will be the key thing to adding $$$$ to your bottom line.

You CAN be an IMPLEMENTER!

This all may or may not make complete sense to you, so I suggest you analyze how your brain works and create systems that work for you.

First, there is NO SYSTEM IN THE WORLD that works for EVERYONE!  

Also, It takes 21 days of CONSISTENT use to form a habit so you can’t do it for a week and then say “it didn’t work.”

By the way, before my son left to college, we blocked out every Monday from 3:30 to 5 pm and it was HIS TIME.  If he wanted me to go to the grocery store with him or just sit outside and talk, it didn’t matter.  It was his time, and everything else was OUT of that moment.

He ultimately chose it to work on his topics for his TV show and brainstorm ideas for his business, school, etc. (which, of course, is my gift) but it didn’t matter.  If he chose to bake cookies together, then that’s what we would do.

IMPLEMENT and BE IN THE MOMENT!

The bottom line is that you have to live life IN THE MOMENT you are in.  You can’t be IN one moment, yet thinking about another.  It’s not fair to YOU, your clients or the people you love. (I’ve theoretically known this but Sharon Wacks imprinted this in my head several years ago)

With that being said, your brain does NOT have the capacity to PARK all that information all at once, to draw from, at any given notice.  So STOP trying to make it work that way and then beat yourself up for forgetting things and not getting things done.

If you find yourself NOT reaching your goals in your business and any of these things resonate with you, I’d like to offer you a GIFT of a “CATAPULT Your Cash Flow” Session with one of my Master IMPLEMENTATION Coach-sultants.

CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE YOUR FREE GIFT TODAY!

or call 561-320-1517

What is ADHD/ADD Coaching?

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What is ADHD/ADD Coaching?

What is ADHD Coaching?

By Shelley Mitchell, CPM, CAPS, CAM, HCCP, COS, MORS

(*Author of the forthcoming book series “How To Get & keep What You Really, Really Want – Using SMART Goals to get UNSTRESSED and OUT of OVERWHELM”)

 Many of you know I’ve been a Business Coach for many years but what you may not know is that I’m also a graduate of ADDCA and specialize in helping entrepreneurs who have ADHD and also helping those who don’t have ADHD but just want to work through just one or some key challenges which cause stress and overwhelm such as:

  • Procrastination
  • Time Management
  • Planning
  • Prioritizing
  • Scheduling,
  • Goal Setting,
  • Building Confidence,
  • Organizing,
  • Focusing, and
  • Persistence

Sometimes people just need help in “sticking to a plan” or even just “coming up with a plan”.  However, everyone can use an accountability partner to keep us headed in the right direction to ensure we accomplish what we set out to do and getting what you really, really want.  The below information is directly from ADDCA.  If you would like to find out how you can get UNSTRESSED and OUT of OVERWHELM, contact me for a free 20 minute strategy sessions. You will be glad you did.  www.MyPersonalBusinessCoach.com

How ADD Coaching Works

* Helps clients identify their positive ADHD characteristics and to appreciate their strengths.
* Improve client’s understanding of ADHD related to their learning styles & personal challenges.
* Nurtures personal awareness and responsibility and encourages the client to look for options that lead to progress and success.
* Guides the client into actions that (re)build self-esteem, self-awareness and self- regulation.
* Focuses on the client’s executive functioning skills (i.e., planning, prioritizing & analyzing) to create customized systems that will improve the client’s consistency & effectiveness.
* Offers a safe environment for clients who need to let go of their isolation & helps them form a nurturing connection with another person.
* Provides consistent accountability & encourages the client to move beyond thinking into appropriate action.
* Helps clients learn to advocate & speak out for their own needs, questions & boundaries.
ADD coaching builds hope by educating clients about ADHD. It is instrumental in assisting individuals in developing systems & strategies that can be used to effectively manage their specific ADHD challenges, which in turn dramatically improves their quality of life.

This section is excerpted from: “Life Coaching for Adult ADHD” by Nancy Ratey, Ed.M, ABDA, MCC in Clinical Interventions for Adult ADHD: A Comprehensive Approach. edited by Sam Goldstein, PhD and Phyllis Ann Teeter, Academic Press, 2002

Neuropsychological research tells us that the brain is flexible in its ability to learn continuously. Physical and chemical changes occur in the brain when it is challenged or when new learning takes place. Rehearsing actions helps forge new neural pathways in the brain, allowing it to develop new competencies in areas that have been deficient. This is how new habits are learned. Coaching paves the pathway for this learning to occur.

Coaching intervention can make a real difference in how people with ADD negotiate
their own particular deficits and cope with life on a daily basis. There are five major deficit areas that can be seen playing out in the lives of persons with ADD. The following is a discussion of these areas, and how the coaching relationship can offer successful compensatory strategies.

1. Coaching maintains mental arousal and focus on completing goals.
If attention is under-aroused, chances are motivation will lag also, and vice versa. For instance, people with ADD often have a hard time pursuing abstract goals. Coaches seek to bring the more abstract goals to the forefront of their clients’ minds, keeping attention aroused to work on the goal and stay focused until it’s completed.
The coaching partnership provides a “shared awareness”, or mutual consciousness, of goals and their associated challenges so as to sustain the ADD client’s vigilance towards an identified goal. The coach works with the client to create deadlines, schedules, meetings and regular phone check-ins around reaching goals. This induces a certain level of “good stress” on clients, keeping their brain aroused, vigilant, and on track to reach stated goals.

2. Coaching helps modulate emotions.
Shame, guilt and fear are demons plaguing many people with ADD. Years of being labeled “stupid”, “ditzy” or “irresponsible” create an emotional burden that can derail their actions, throw them off course or even paralyze them. A coach helps clients learn how to identify bad feelings and their triggers, and explores effective ways to modulate emotional responses. Instead of blaming themselves when ADD gets in their way, clients can think: “Wait a minute! I know this is my ADD at work, and I know I have ways to get around it now.” By isolating the behavior from the emotion, the behavior can be broken down into parts to take the mystery out of it, giving clients an opportunity to think up strategies to contain and change the behavior.

3. Coaching maintains motivation and sustains the feeling of reward. Motivation is often questioned in people with ADD. Although clients may have developed the tools to sustain attention to tasks, they may still lack motivation. By reminding clients of their top priorities and of all the gains they have made, the coach provides encouragement. Self-confidence is bolstered. The client may under-function in certain situations, especially when it comes to prioritizing, planning, attending to details and following through with projects. In other instances, the client may become overwhelmed with a project, and not knowing where to start, may avoid the task. By breaking large projects down into smaller, more manageable tasks, coaches keep clients more focused on their goals. Other clients might need help in discovering a system of tangent rewards so as to sustain motivation and progress forward.

4. Coaching acts as the “Executive Secretary of Attention”.
Clients with ADD are challenged in their ability to “gross prioritize” – to gather and
focus their attention in a more global way. By keeping the big picture in mind, the coach helps the client to sustain their attention on their primary goals, pointing out distractions and helping to create strategies when distractions do arise.

5. Coaching supports the client’s ability to self-direct actions and to change behavior. In order to function autonomously, individuals must be able to screen out distractions, sustain their attention and use feedback appropriately. Attentional arousal is a double-edged sword for people with ADD. While it is usually the case that their attention needs to be aroused in order to attack certain tasks, it is also true that if their attention is too aroused they can find themselves becoming “over-focused” and getting stuck in a particular activity or step of a task at the cost of everything else. Just as they can be sidetracked by pleasurable feedback, clients can also be sidetracked by negative feedback such as those “voices in the head” that continually remind one of one’s inadequacies. Clients with ADD are also very adept at self-deception and forgetting the pain of past procrastination and other self-defeating behaviors.

The coach compensates for these deficits by providing daily reminders and helping the client sequence out the details of needed actions. By pressing clients to process and evaluate outcomes and consequences, the coach allows clients to develop the ability to make more proactive choices and be less reactive to the environment. Coaches also help clients develop the ability to estimate the time it takes to complete tasks by having on- going discussions, reviewing plans for timelines and processing out the details and sequences of tasks. The coach helps clients to, in effect, observe themselves in action, by processing out events, asking questions and providing feedback.

 

If you’d like to implement this or discover many other possibilities of some small steps with BIG IMPACT you can roll into your business today, My Personal Business Coach can help.  We help Smart, Driven, Entrepreneurs to simplify their lives, get UNSTRESSED and OUT of OVERWHELM so they can make more money and start running their business rather than their business running them.

 

Reach your DREAMS and GOALS – contact My Personal Business Coach in order to set up a complimentary strategy session at http://www.mypersonalbusinesscoach.com/ConsultationRequest.en.html

If you have any questions you’d like to ask and would like us to share answers on the blog, please contact us atwww.MyPersonalBusinessCoach.com or on our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/MyPersonalBusinessCoach