As smart, driven, creative entrepreneurs, leaders and/or managers, we get so wrapped up in the act of doing business, growing our business, planning our business, worrying about our business, loving our business, hating our business, thinking outside the box, taping our box back together and so on that we forget to stop for a minute and REMEMBER exactly WHY we DO what we DO… Our determination, hard work and passion that is constantly fueling us can actually drive us to get STUCK, STRESSED and OVERWHELMED. When this happens, we are no longer having FUN, we live in fear or anxiety about the future and lose our FOCUS due to constant distractions, procrastination and chronic challenges that seem to continuously get in our way of SUCCESS.
A friend of mine recently suggested lately that I go back to my roots of my Army Sargent days when I was the FIRST Fun, Fearless Female for Cosmopolitan Magazine after serving in two wars, was made their mascot and also featured in several issues including September 1990 after being flown to NY, spending the day with Helen Gurley Brown, seeing a Broadway show, etc… It was realllllly cool! The suggestion was to consciously incorporate those philosophies into my business and my work with clients. I was already doing it but didn’t realize it. I teach my clients each day to look at WHAT makes them unique, to live abundantly and to GO FOR IT when they are passionate about a big GOAL so in light of that spirit, I was inspired to write out the RULES to breaking the RULES to be FUN, FEARLESS, and FOCUSED in your business and in everything you do. I believe my unique background and my guiding principles of, no matter what I’m doing, to always try to have FUN, not be fearful../ and God, if I could only stay FOCUSED…. well, that’s when AMAZING things start to happen! (My nickname by my family is “Squirrel” by the way. And yes, not only do I have ADHD, I am the Queen of adHd. Thankfully, I’m trained/certified in ADHD Coaching also in order to help those who struggle with the same traits.) I hope you enjoy my RULES and so you too can be FUN, FEARLESS and FOCUSED and have have HUGE PROFITS and PRODUCTIVITY in your business and life!
I’m including ONE from EACH category – FUN, FEARLESS & FOCUSED! I’ve listed them in no particular order but I will be sending them out in my UPCOMING NEWSLETTERS so you can COLLECT THEM ALL. I may even be sharing some of your ideas (so please SEND THEM to me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any you’d like to add)
#2 Start being intensely selfish but in a good way: Give yourself that time you need to reflect and center yourself each day – as tempting as it can be when you are really busy, don’t cheat yourself…I just started doing this year by committing myself to 15 minutes each day going through the book and program of The Science of Getting Rich and WOW, what a difference it made in my mindset alone…Also, don’t feel guilty about the little things such as that you get mani/pedis or that you like to work laying out at the pool or that you would rather hire someone to clean the house so you can focus on either really growing your business or spending quality time with those you love or BOTH. I like to have my OWN jar of peanut butter so I can take my sugar free chocolate Popsicles and dip them in there when they are frozen. yummy! Hey, I bought a second jar for everyone else; what’s the problem?
Don’t be afraid to:
#1 Let others challenge you: hang out with, and mastermind with, smart, successful positive people. As stubborn as you are, they may actually start to rub off on you and wouldn’t that be nice! A few of my “successful” friends will instant message or text me from time to time saying “GYABTTL” which helps keep me focused. We came up with this during a mastermind when we were complaining that we had so much to do on our lists so “Get your ___ back to the list” was born. Additionally, I always play much better golf when I play with really GOOD golfers. Yes, I still have the worst score but I beat my personal best!
#1 Be an advocate of people’s STRENGTHS, Talents and Gifts, including your OWN: God gave us gifts and strengths that we are innately so good at that we tend to take them for granted and assume that everyone else has or should have them too. They don’t! These are your GIFTS and it is your job and responsibility to feed them, grow them and then go out into the world and share them with the world. You are not broken so stop trying to fix something that isn’t broken. The more time we spend doing what we are GOOD AT and less time at not doing what we are not good at, the better off we are as well as the world being a much better place. Identifying and pointing out someones weaknesses is easy and really takes no effort at all; especially when you throw “judgement” into the soup. It takes true character and self-worth to challenge yourself to always look for the strengths and gifts in everyone you meet. Also, you will hear me say this many, many times going forward. You ARE what you FOCUS on… so I think I’m going to focus on being tall, thin, blonde, brilliant, wealthy and making a difference in the lives of everyone who you are in contact with.